In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: (emphasis added)
If we have found encouragement, comfort, love, tenderness and compassion from Jesus.
Then we are supposed to bring joy to Him by being liked minded with Him, by sharing that same love with others, by following the Holy Spirit, by humbling ourselves and valuing others above ourselves.
If you haven’t found these things in Jesus, then I ask have you been seeking Him?
We cannot be these things to others if we do not first know them from Him. Its hard to give out what you haven’t received.
Seek God, learn His character, know His words and His actions. If we know Him we can tell others about Him, but if we don’t know Him how can we expect to show others.